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Things I would do if I won the lottery

(Hopefully I can use this as a reference one day so I remember what to spend all my money on!)

1. Make a fandom bar: An idea spread around tumblr. So y’know how bars play sports? Why not one that plays TV shows and movies? Doctor Who in one corner, Supernatural in another, maybe the Marvel movies in the lounge? Discounts to cosplayers, themed nights, premiere parties, themed drinks, season finale specials with tissues provided, DnD areas, etc. I know you have to have rights to play tv shows and movies in a public area, but… I can dream.

2. Set up a trust: Make sure a kid who wouldn’t usually have the opportunity can go study languages or fashion design or whatever floats their boat.

3. Fix my parents’ house: It’s not actually that bad, but they haven’t finished everything they’d like. So I’d do that.

4. Have a billion sponsor children: I have a sponsor child in Zambia and I love getting letters from them. It’s really wonderful and I’d love to help out families all over the world.

5. Go to the airport and buy the next flight out: Don’t care where, I just want to go.

6. Travel everywhere: No, really. Set foot on every continent, see all the places I’ve read about in books and seen in movies. Take a river cruise on the Danube, touch the Great Wall, eat spaghetti in Italy, go to Grenoble. Whatever and wherever I wanted.

7. Buy Tony Stark’s house: Alright, at a heafty $25, 000, 000 this one might be a little much. If everyone in Australia gave $1 we could all just afford it. But the plan would be; buy this house and sell it off in a timeshare type of manner for fans of the movies. I mean there’s 11,000 square feet of space here, you can book out the house or just one room, depending on how much you buy in or want to pay. And maybe have a charity weekend where kids come and can meet Marvel characters or something. Either way, I think a giant Marvel fandom party would be so much fun, especially if it was in Tony Stark’s mansion. Just remember to lock the suits up.

8. Pay off my debts, like student loans. *creys*

9. Grant wishes for people. If someone made an awesome cosplay, but didn’t have the money to go to SDCC? Or if their favourite band was doing a farewell tour everywhere but in their country? Or if someone (anyone) had never been to a Disney park??

10. Save, invest, budget and do all the other important things.

What would be some of the things you would do if you won the lottery?

New Zealand, Thoughts

Identity

Identity is a very complex thing.

You don’t ever have just “one” thing you identify as. For example, I identify as many things; cisgendered female, Australian, bisexual kinsey 2(-ish), INFJ, Whovian, expat, Cumberbitch, redhead, feminist, Pine Nut, artist, Trekkie, writer, opinionated, THE LIST GOES ON.

And your identity changes as you grow. When I was younger, I didn’t know what cisgendered was and I assumed I was heterosexual until I discovered Karen Gillan researched more. PEOPLE CHANGE.

We all know we don’t identify as one thing, and no two people will ever identify the same way, even if parts of their identities overlap. For example, on my college program, I made friends with other Australians and New Zealanders. Some of these lovely people I worked with. For many other people I knew, they naturally assumed since we were both Australian, we either all knew each other already (spoiler: Australia is really big) or we had very similar backgrounds. Not so; I was born in Sydney and grew up in the NSW Southern Highlands. My other two friends were from Melbourne and Brisbane. Our backgrounds were very different, despite all identifying as “Australian”.

So why do we try and force people into boxes?

Just because I’m Australian does not mean I know the ins and outs of current Australian soap operas you might like. In the same way, just because I live in New Zealand, it does not automatically mean I am a huge Lord of the Rings fan. (spoiler: I am. But don’t assume that.)

Some stereotypes are just niggling and slightly annoying, but I can live with them. I know I make these sweeping judgements about other people as well, even if I don’t mean to.

One of the main things that has frustrated me since moving to New Zealand around eight years ago, was people’s inability to separate myself and their opinions on Australians. I find some (not all) New Zealanders take the Australian/New Zealand rivalry thing too far and it’s kinda annoying, but I can deal.

The other thing that has frustrated me I only came to realise in the last year since leaving for the USA: I can’t be both.

I am an Australian who lives in New Zealand. My parents moved here. I went to high school and college here. I don’t want to move back to Australia, but nor do I have much desire to take out New Zealand citizenship.

But when I’m asked where I’m from, and I reply; “Australia, but my family lives in New Zealand now” I’m immediately boxed into “oh, so you’re Australian, then?” or “oh, you’re a Kiwi, then?” Neither one is accurate, but neither are they inaccurate.

I usually just smile and nod at whatever answer and move on.

But think about it, if I said “Well, my favourite comics are usually Marvel, but I enjoy reading Batman as well.” would your reply be, “so you only like Marvel then?” or “ok, so you’re a Batman fan?”

What? No, I just said I like both! Were you even listening?

The more we listen to people, and the more questions we ask, the better chance we have of understanding the people around us on a much better level.

If you don’t know what pronouns people prefer, ask! If you want to find out what Harry Potter house they’re sorted into, ask! (btw I’m Hufflepuff, yo) If you want to know more about someone, they’re the best person to ask. Don’t assume (but also don’t be nosy).

If they refuse to answer, don’t push the issue. Some people aren’t ready to share information on their identity. Sometimes the identity we present to the world and what we identify with in our hearts are different things, for a variety of reasons.

Remember, we are all beautiful individuals and we can share that with the world how we want to.

If you’re still curious, check out Sexplanations’ video with Nick about identity!